Acceptance Starts With You
Many people look outside themselves for approval, acceptance, and love. But the truth is, they won’t ever find it by looking “out there.
It all starts with you—your relationship with yourself. When you are an affirming and supportive friend to yourself, your self-esteem is strong. External validation is nice, but it doesn’t last. Your own good feelings and self-esteem must come from within. Here are some simple ways to get started:
Think about what are you good at? Look yourself in the mirror each morning and tell yourself (yes, out loud!) one thing that makes you distinctly who you are. Then affirm and acknowledge your uniqueness with love and total acceptance.
Cut yourself a break! Nobody’s perfect—and that’s good news. The next time things don’t go exactly as planned, instead of muttering how you didn’t get it right, take a deep breath, forgive yourself, and move on.
Ban negative talk. It starts with how you talk to yourself and extends out to how you allow others to talk to you. Avoid people who are critical, unsupportive, and do not bring out the best in you. Instead, surround yourself with people who love, support, and affirm you.
It’s not easy to always be positive. As a matter of fact it is downright impossible! However you can take small steps to being more confident in your skills and abilities. Each time you accomplish a task stop and congratulate yourself.
Self-esteem is really about acknowledging, affirming and accepting ALL of yourself, even the parts that aren’t perfect. When you practice acceptance of yourself, the world will take note… and follow your lead.